For the longest time, I’ve always wondered why people needed “alone time”. I never really understood it. At first, I thought it was just CFB. Then PP too mentioned she needed her own “alone time” too. They tried to explain that sometimes, they like to walk around town by themselves….or sometimes, just be by themselves…with their own thoughts…or just cause. I found it strange but never really dwelled too much on it. CFB asked me once…ok well..not just once but a couple of times…”Don’t you need time alone for yourself??” She gave me this puzzled, you’re slightly chronic look. It made me wonder even more about this whole “alone time” they speak about.
So I asked ColourfulShoes….and she explained at length why and when she needs her “alone time”. Then I asked a couple of other colleagues…and it seemed like everybody else needs this famous “alone time” and it looked like I was missing out on something great. JB, IP and even LMM all admitted that their “alone time” is precious.
I know Dubaibaby has a great need for “alone time” and it’s especially difficult to have it when you’re sharing the same room with someone. I used to think she was nuts and she’s purposely doing it to annoy me…I mean it’s strange when the person sharing the room with you suddenly decides she doesn’t feel like talking. I got used to it…I read her mood swings pretty well now. So when she needs “alone time”, I’m busy sleeping. So it works out well for both of us.
That day when I went swimming alone…the bugger day I call it. I thought maybe…just maybe this would be considered my “alone time”.
I sucked at it big time. My mind was in whirlwind of chaos. I was talking to myself. The voices in my head became louder. I felt stupid and I becamed edgy and irritated. It was soo weird. I even felt lost!!!
ColourfulShoes concluded that maybe my “alone time” was during lunch because I don’t head out with the rest of them. I like staying in. But lets be honest, the only reason why I stay in is because I’m either on the phone or I’m taking at snooze.
All of them say, it’s different with each person. But almost everybody I’ve checked…”alone time” is a must.
So I decided I’m going to give it a try again. And I did. Tonight. From CFB’s place, I suddenly felt this great urge to take a walk. I didn’t feel like heading home yet. I wanted to talk to someone…or send a silly sms to one of the “Best Buds” but since I was experimenting, I didn’t think it was right. Plus, I promised myself if I get down to doing this and succeeding, I was going to treat myself to some ice-cream.
And so I walked. And so began the conversations with myself. With the voices in my head. The endless debates. The mediating conversations between my head and my heart. Every thing that have been going on. Every thing that I’m afraid to say or speak about. The tears that came out of nowhere….the silly laughter that honestly made me think, this is it Kel..You’ve gone absolutely stark raving mad…
Then the brain memory clicked….a memory somehow decided it was time to fall out.
“It’s when you’re alone that it happens……”
When I close my eyes, I like what I see….So I thought.